Saturday, July 21, 2012

Prayers needed: Julie, Haley Ryan's mom near death

A sad note from The Hayley Ryan Memorial Page on Facebook. You may remember Haley. She was killed when her family's car was struck by a repeat drunk driver in Cullman, Alabama just before Christmas, 2010. Haley's family was on their way to her grandparents home there.

Haley's mom, Julie, has breast cancer and had a double masectomy in The spring of 2010. After that her beast cancer was in remission. Julie walked in the Survivor's Parade at the Kentucky Oaks on Oaks Day in 2011. Below is a post that I made shortly afterward.

Evidently, Julie's cancer has reared it's ugly head again and has spread to her brain snd death is near. Please keep Julie's husband, Josh, and her family and friends in your prayers.

Here's the posts from the Facebook page:

Facebook friends. We need lots of prayers for Julie Fore Smith, Hayleys mom. Many of you all know her story and her fight with breast cancer. She was once given also notice she was in remission and things looked good. She remarried and has had the most amazing man by her side in her fight with cancer. Well cancer seems to keep tugging at her and coming back for a fight. Today she is in ICU and doctors have said the cancer has spread to her brain making her have seizures and becoming unresponsive at times. I know that Julie is a true fighter and will do everything to make it, but she is really sick and we are all hoping she makes it through this. I know her angel is watching over her............thanks for the prayers. And as facebook was before, a huge support of comfort. If can you leave a note here for her, her husband Josh, and family to see....it would mean a lot.

With a very heavy heart....here is an update from Josh, Julies husband. Thank you to everyone who has posted today and the prayers sent their way.

From Josh:
Julie's time is limited on this earth now. Were just making her comfortable in this last bit. I will question this with God for a long time I know especially on why some people can do bad all their life and have good happen to them and my Julie which is a angel on earth has had so many bad things happen to her. One thing's for sure there will be a little girl to welcome her home.

Blog post from May, 2011:

Before the fillies ran for the lilies in the 137th Kentucky Oaks today, a Louisville woman made a special walk around the Churchill Downs track. A chain of unthinkable tragedies has changed Julie Ryan's life forever. For the first time, Julie sat down to tell her story.

Julie, Rick and Hayley Ryan (Source; Julie Ryan)
Julie, Rick and Haley Ryan

In the spring of 2010, Julie was living a normal life. She was working at a job she loves, had been happily married to her husband Rick for ten years and was being a mom to her young daughter, Hayley. But a doctors diagnosis quickly changed everything for the 36-year old.

"It was aggressive breast cancer," said Julie.

Despite the diagnosis, Julie vowed to stay strong for her daughter

"I was just more concerned about what she was going to have to deal with," Julie said. "I wasn't concerned with myself at that point, it was just a matter of getting through it. I knew I had to."

During Derby Week 2010, Julie underwent a bilateral mastectomy.

Her boss and close friend, Ruthie Maier, was by her side during chemotherapy and daughter Hayley provided the positive push, like joining her mom on cancer walks to help get her through it.


Hayley Ryan (Source: Julie Ryan)


Haley Ryan


"It made it easier for me knowing that she needed me," said Julie."

In November, Julie got good news.

"Everything was clear," she said. "They didn't see anything else."

So Julie said the family started making plans again. The first plan - a visit to Alabama to see Julie's mom for Christmas.

It was a trip Julie said the
y have made a million times. But as fate would have it, this time they never made it there. Less than two miles from her mother's home in Cullman, Alabama, police say 45-year-old Kenneth Burns, a repeat drunk driver, slammed into the family's Suzuki and another car. Rick suffered serious brain trauma. Hayley was killed.
The wrecked car of the Ryan family (Source: Julie Ryan)
"Her seat was crushed completely against mine," said Julie. "It was devastating."

On Julie's wrist is a pink bracelet that reads, "Hayley is my angel."

"She loved to play, she loved to run, ride her bike and loved gymnastics she would run around the house all the time doing cartwheels and flips and she was just full of life," said Julie.

Family and friends recently celebrated what would have been Hayley's 9th birthday at Resthaven. That's where she's buried next to Julie's dad.
Through cancer and the loss of a child, Ruthie has stayed by Julie's side.

"She's been amazing," said Julie of Ruthie. "She's been absolutely amazing. I've worked here since I was 18, so she's been my second mom half my life."

Ruthie Maier and Julie
dressed up for the Oaks Parade

Saying she's never witnessed a better example of strength, Ruthie nominated Julie for the Kentucky Oaks Survivors Parade. Only 137 cancer survivors from across the country are chosen for Kentucky Oaks 137.

"She's been through so much this year and she has managed to pull herself up by the bootstraps and go on," said Ruthie.

Well over 1,000 votes flooded in for Julie. The tickets arrived at the door.

"It means the world to me," Julie said, "people that voted for me. It's just the nicest thing that anybody's ever done for me."

To make that walk and spend time with a group of survivors and hear their stories is something Julie knows will be part of her road to recovery. She also knows her little angel will again be making the walk with her.

"She's with me all the time, but I know she'll be with me that day," said Julie. "I know no matter where I am, she's with me."

Julie says Rick is still recovering from his brain injuries, but is making great progress.

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